Posts tagged youth
Stop Trick-or-Treating and Grow Up

Don’t get angry at community members for uttering the obvious: “Aren’t you too old for this?” Cue the indignant parental response: “It isn’t fair to my baby for people to ask that.” Actually it is completely fair. If your high school junior wants to dress up as Maui and ask for Twix, that’s cool. He just better be ready for some raised eyebrows. I wouldn’t get offended if the bank teller looked at me weird when I asked for a lollipop, or the mall Santa told me to get off his lap. It’s part of growing up. Still, many believe it is their role to fight all battles, thus perpetually delaying maturation. Adulthood and self-reliance, rather than exciting goals for our children, have been transformed into a dreaded expiration date that society is trying to fend off as long as possible. It is the overgrown children who pay the price.

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Rites of Passage are a Necessity: The Lobotomizing Effect of Unchallenging Childhood

The past few generations experienced a developmental paradigm that prioritized all-encompassing protection and providing the maximum for each child. The privileges of adult responsibility became automatically transferred with the passage of time, while the capabilities and values that once defined adulthood, were never refined. The result is a dependent generation, increasingly unable to live up to their own vaguely defined value systems and increasingly passive about their integration into “the real world.” It is them who pay the price. This prolonged childhood of perpetual training wheels scarcely directs teens towards exploration of the existential questions that bring life direction and purpose.

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