Posts in Intentionality
Evil Geniuses, #FakeNews, and Why You Aren't Free

The reason that so many people love to talk about freedom in the national political conversation is that, deep down, they do not feel a sense of personal freedom in their own lives. They know that they lack the discipline and value structure to achieve real freedom. Attributing this lack of agency and self-control to laws and political forces makes for a far easier pill to swallow than the reality that they chose their current state by living at the whim of their emotional impulses. The tendency to point to external factors rather than the role that they hold in their own life is the precise reason that they do not feel free.

Read More
Are You Letting the World Make You a Lesser Version?

Technology will redefine the way we work, think, and live over and over again. Industries will rise and fall, social patterns will shift, but all the while you will be at the center of your experience. This is the essential point societies have repeatedly failed to honor following past changes, most notably in regards to the disruption that followed ubiquitous smartphone use. How well you weather this chaotic new world is completely dependent on your individual self-mastery. Regardless of how much technology shifts the landscape, you are still a human, driven by a hunter-gatherer brain and hunter-gatherer needs.  

The modern mental and physical health epidemics are spurred by technology that promotes immaturity. As we rely less on ourselves we remain lesser versions. Suddenly it becomes normal for adults to have donuts or fast food for breakfast every morning, to scan social media all day and night, and to spend money they don’t have on stuff they don’t need. To transcend these patterns, we have to intentionally craft a plan for daily self-development. The 30x30 Challenge is that daily plan.

Read More
7 Rules for Creating Empowered, Antifragile Young Adults

The new school year is here and with it come brand new hopes and dreams. Yet, success is not a destination but, rather, a path that the most fulfilled people have internalized. We all have a vested interest in this path, but especially those parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors who would like to see their protégés flourish. Our mentees simply won’t outperform our model. Your disposition becomes theirs; your energy, theirs; and, most importantly, any of your own self-limiting patterns of thought will be internalized and become theirs. Do as I say only works if we do.

Read More
Be the Weirdo: Why Fulfilling Values Require Us To Behave Differently

The most important thing that can do to remain committed to your values is to embrace being a weirdo. This is a beautiful thing. Nearly every influential person in history was a weirdo. That’s exactly why we know their name. They dared to poke their head above the crowd, take a look around, and decide what direction they truly wanted to walk. They chose their own path, often with heavy opposition from those around them.

Read More
Nobody’s Perfect: Why Relationships Depend on Making the Charitable Assumption

Even with the best of intentions, people accidentally hurt. We all put our foot in our mouth, step across the line from critique to insult, or make ill-timed or distasteful jokes. Our default position must be to never assume malicious intent. When friends, loved ones, or even a perfect stranger hurt our feelings we must assume that they were simply incompetent, ignorant to our feelings, and ill-equipped to navigate the emotional terrain.

Read More
How to Have an Honest Conversation

If your values and the ways in which your engage with the world are never challenged, they will never progress. You cannot hope to be a better person, with a more honed set of intellectual tools, without ever meeting opposition. Challenge - genuine, reasoned, honest, compassionate yet fierce challenge - is the only means by which our belief systems progress.

Read More
Pull Back the Wizard's Curtain: Embracing Real Life Amid the Age of Artificiality

Today’s technology has not scaffolded us to greater capabilities, but is prompting a devolution towards a lesser form of human. Viewed as a controlled substance, new technologies support our quest to live fuller and grow more capable. Yet, like any drug, unbounded use promises only dependency, distortion, and self-fracturing. We are becoming less as a species. Less able to focus, to dialogue, to move confidently, to deal with life’s inevitable adversity, to perceive life accurately, or to think and engage ideas of any depth. We must actively seek a path towards living the fullest life possible—to avoid the traps that waste our time so we can get the most possible life out of our life—to live in a manner we can be happy with upon our deathbed.

Read More
Auto-Immunity and Social Justice: When Good Intentions Betray Our Own Cultural Body

We see debate and discourse, the societal immune system to suss out and eliminate destructive ideas, being coopted and turned inward to attack the very structures and values that our country (and the rest of the Western world) stands on.

Read More